"Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep." (Romans 12:15)
Jealousy such a controversial word. The world may say, "Your just jealous of me!" Why are we not appalled! It seems to be an accepted phrase in society. Why is it OK to "try and make" someone jealous!? I believe this may be the rift cause of ruin in many marriages and other relationships. The Bible is clear on it's stance of jealousy.
Jealousy is a driving force; an intense emotion. It derives from the root word for zeal; it means "to burn with an intense fire." (Prov. 27:4) states "Wrath is fierce and anger is a flood, but who can stand before jealousy."
There are actually 2 very different forms of jealousy: Legitimate jealousy is based upon Love. Illegitimate jealousy is based on envy. If you love someone you want what's best for them. It is never appropriate to purposely cause another person to feel jealous. Keep this in mind... open communication is key!
With the new era of many electronic forms of communication there are many ways too create jealousy. Determine if whoever you communicate with is helping your relationship or driving a wedge!?
It is essential you both have positive outlets; but keep balance and communicate openly with each other. If one of you feels jealousy for any reason, it is important to discuss why your feeling how you do right away. If not these "feelings" can soon turn toxic to yourself and your relationship.
Do you appreciate and enjoy the "successes" of your spouse!? Do you bask in the "glow" or cast a "shadow" over them? Do you have feelings of being "unsuccessful" right now? If so where are those feelings coming from? It could be a "form" of jealousy. You may feel others have a "better" job or "house"; or that their kids behave far more better than yours. That is what happens when were not content with what we have. The envy monster has been allowed to creep in; and you never even realized it! So when is jealousy an OK feeling to have...
The Bible clearly tells us "the Lord your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God" (Deuteronomy 4:24) He is not jealous "of us"... as in envy. He has no reason to want what we have, since He owns it all including... "the cattle on a thousand hills" (Psalm 50:10) It's just that He deeply "longs" for us, He wants us to keep him #1 in our life as our 1st love. He doesn't want us to let anything into our hearts such as (jealous envy) to corrupt us. He doesn't want us to worship any other "gods"... meaning people, things, thoughts. Anything that consumes us, takes our time and attention away from HiM! He wants us to have a healthy relationship with our spouse.
Let love, humility and gratefulness destroy any envious jealous feelings in your heart. Praise your mates successes; allowing them to draw you nearer to each other. Become your spouse's #1 Biggest Fan! Reject any thoughts of jealousy. Begin to turn your heart toward your spouse. Focus on them and their achievements.
*** Love Dare*** If you did previous Dare #7 you will have 2 lists of positive and negative attributes of your mate. Now is the time to destroy the negative list... Burn it or ? Whatever way you can to completely destroy it. Then share how glad you are about a recent success or positive attribute about your mate.
*Encourage your mate to go forward toward future successes. No success is too small when achieved for HiS Kingdom!!!
"Love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire." (Song of Solomon 8:6)
For HiS Kingdom,
JKEST-Vicki
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