"Marriage Matters" #10: Love is Unconditional

"God demonstrates HiS own love towards us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5:8)

If you were asked, "Why do you love your husband or wife?"-what would you say? Many men would probably mention their wife's beauty, her understanding, compassion, kindness. They might talk about her cooking, her sense of style or creativeness, or what a good mother she is. Many women would probably mention their husband's good looks or his charming personality. They'd say how faithful he is. How consistent and honest he is. They'd say they love him because he's always there for them, he's generous and helpful.
What happens then after the years go by and they stop being these things? Do you still love them? Logic would say no... unconditional love says Yes! Love can last a life-time only if it's unconditional! This type of love is called Agape love!

Agape love is always unconditionally giving and impossible to take or be a taker. It devotes total commitment to seek your highest best no matter how someone may respond. This form of love is totally selfless and does not change whether the love given is returned or not.
(Christian theology) states it is the love of God or Christ for mankind- Classical Greek; also Charity.
It is one of the 3 basic virtues, along with Faith and Hope. Saint Paul called it the greatest of these. The Bible says, "This is real love- not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent HiS Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins." (1 John 4:10) The essence of Agape love is self-sacrifice. It's Supernatural God anointed love! "We love, because He first loved us." (1 John 4:19)
Agape love is the true opposite of sin. In a world of self indulgence and greed, a Christian that lives the life of Love is a real true contrast. The three other forms of love are Eros, Philia, and Storge.

Eros: is an "erotic feeling" self-beneficial... what they can do for you. Eros is passionate love, with sensual desire and longing; intimate but does not have to be sexual in nature. More than friendship. Dating as well as marriage. Appreciation of their natural beauty that comes from within. Naturally Platonic means simply- "without physical attraction." So relationships built on initial physical attraction would not have this level of love. Unless you allow God to grow HiS love within you; you will struggle and possibly fail in your marriage and other relationships. Love that "bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things" (1 Cor. 13:7) does not come from within. It can only come from HiM!

Philia: means Friendship in modern Greek. It is a dispassionate virtuous love, concept developed by Aristotle. It includes loyalty to friends, family, and community and requires virtue, equality, and familiarity. (Prov. 17:17) states "A Friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity." It stems from a desire or enjoyment of an activity, as well as between lovers.

Storge: means "affection" in ancient and modern Greek. It is a natural affection, like that felt by parents for offspring. Exclusively used to describe relationships within the family. It is also known for expressing mere acceptance or putting up with situations, as in "loving" the tyrant. Loving the "unlovable." The Scriptures say that "neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord." (Romans 8:38-39) God Loves us that much!

Thankfully God allows us the choice to choose HiS kind of love. But you must first receive it; before you can share it! What kind of love is your relationship with your mate based on? Is it the same foundation you based it on when you first got together? If it's not currently based on the foundation of Agape Love, it's not too late! Take the steps you need to in order to make your marriage relationship "Rock Solid!" Then instead of saying "I love you because..." You will firmly and passionately be able to say, "I LOVE YOU, PERIOD!"

***Love Dare*** Do something for your spouse that you never or rarely do. Something that you must freely choose to do. Choosing to do this on your own, will help prove your love is based on your choice and nothing else. Wash the car. Clean the kitchen. Buy or make their fave dessert. Fold the laundry. Whatever it takes to show the sheer joy you have for them because they are your partner in marriage-for a Lifetime! Continue showing the Love even if it's not returned!

Love,
JKEST-Vicki

"He who trusts in the Lord, lovingkindness shall surround him." (Psalm 32:10)